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Aug. 20th, 2017 07:35 pm
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The spouse reconnected with his former therapist via Facebook instant messaging this weekend. They got to talking about current events.

"I counseled a member of a neo-Nazi group once," the therapist said.

"Did you learn anything useful about the movement?"

"This particular fellow was a victim of childhood sexual abuse. I think that was the root of his rage," the therapist said.

It makes me wonder how things would be different if American mental health care were in better shape.

Helping Charlottesville kids

Aug. 18th, 2017 07:17 am
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A good friend of mine lives and works (as a teacher) in Charlottesville, and her school librarian has put together a list of books to help kids in the city process what's been happening. If you have a little money, please buy one of the books at the link below and help Charlottesville's kids directly!

[here!]

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Aug. 17th, 2017 07:23 pm
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The news is apocalyptically awful, of course. But I'm a Southerner, and I never expected that I would live to see those statues come down. It was something I didn't even dare to hope for.

I don't want to lose sight of how amazing that is.

2186 / Orphan Black, 5.10

Aug. 13th, 2017 10:07 pm
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As [personal profile] sheafrotherdon wrote about a few days ago, we had a wee bit of a vehicular misadventure while attending a conference. I have some friction burns and a bruise on my arm from the side airbag (which looks worse than it feels), but am otherwise okay. Still, between that and a fairly intensive week-long series of workshops on teaching, I was so grateful to come home, shower, and crawl into my own bed last night.

Orphan Black, 5.10, To Right the Wrongs of Many )

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Aug. 13th, 2017 08:37 am
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I am back in my own home after a week away in Virginia doing work things. The workshop I was at was amazing, and has had a profound impact on the way I think about doing my job. I also got to create a bunch of stuff, mostly online, and I feel such satisfaction about all those things and how I'm going to approach my work in the future. Hurray!

Last week's accident continues to need attention - the national rental company apparently didn't pass on to the local branch of the rental company what had happened, so they're wondering where the car is. Technically not my problem - seriously, company in question, get your act together - but I'm the one getting the phone calls. I also have to provide copies of a bunch of documents to my employer tomorrow as they may be liable for the accident instead of me because I paid for the rental on a company card. Who knows.

What I do know is that not having a car between Tuesday and Friday was a terrible idea. (We only really needed a car to get back to the airport, so there was no point in renting before Friday from a practical standpoint.) I really needed to get back up on the horse before that - I was hella nervous driving on both Friday and Saturday. I was also nervous driving back from my local airport last night because it was dark and I couldn't discount the idea that I would hit something - like a deer - on the way home. My luck seems to be running that way. But it did not come to pass and I got home and went to bed and slept like a diving bell going to the bottom of the ocean. Thank goodness.

Amid all this, some incredibly kind person sent me money through my coffee button, and it was amazingly generous and lifted some of the weight of dealing with the car accident. Whomever you are online, I am so grateful to you, and thank you from the bottom of my heart for your compassion.

Yesterday, [profile] siriaeve and I carved out two hours between leaving Virginia and needing to get to the airport to go into DC and see some sights. We spent most of our time at the National Art Gallery, which I had never been in before. It was really fun, and we had excellent croissants in the cafe, and saw a medieval painting of baby Jesus in which he looked strangely like Jared Kushner. Hmmm. And we walked and walked and walked - my fitbit showed just under 16,000 steps for the day. (This is good news in that I could walk that far without my ankle giving out - it used to do so after a mile and a half before I went to PT - and while it did hurt by the end, it was an ache rather than a sharp pain. My PTs will be super glad to hear this.) It was a great day, even though the giant chicken behind the White House was gone.

Of course yesterday was a day full of the news coming out of Charlottesville - I saw some particularly graphic footage while eating some lunch in the airport. I've seen a lot of people saying that the actions of the Nazis "are not who we are as a country" - and while I recognize that as an aspirational saying, it's simply not true from a historical perspective. We have always been a white supremacist country; it has always been this bad for key segments of our population; the U.S. is founded on denying rights to others because of their race and religion. Our job is to undo what has been done, to untangle the web of white supremacy that runs through all our institutions, our cultural mores, our social conventions - to do any less is to be willfully blind to what is desperately apparent.

There are many good organizations in Charlottesville [to which you might give money] as a first response. But not everyone has money, and action takes many forms. Can I suggest asset mapping yourself? Draw a stick figure on a piece of paper, and then go around that form and list all the talents and energies you can bring to anti-racism work - your knowledge of Google apps, Excel, Word; your ability hammer things, lift things, hold signs, walk in protests, perhaps; your understanding of social justice. Then look around your own community and find organizations that can use what you have to offer. I just joined the board of my local domestic violence shelter, which may seem removed from all of this, but violence is completely bound up in the messages of toxic masculinity that come out of white supremacy and other pools of hatred. We serve about 70 families per month, and my town is very small. That's a lot of people who need to hear messages of love and welcome and to receive practical help with shelter, food, education, and an income.

We can fight this - we have to fight this. And I know from experience that you have such big hearts and minds and a commitment to upholding what is right. We can beat this. Together.

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Aug. 9th, 2017 02:28 pm
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Friends, I had another car accident yesterday. I was in a left turn lane, waiting for an opportunity to turn into a little strip mall where an Indian restaurant was allegedly located. There were two lanes of traffic going in the opposite direction, and traffic in the closest lane to me had stopped because it was backed up from a light. Someone stopped to allow clearance for me to turn and waved me through - I did not see the Honda Pilot coming up on the outside lane. It struck the back rear passenger door.

It was a slow-speed event, and the damage to my car was remarkably localized (thankfully). I'm now thigh-deep in bureaucracy - insurance, tow truck, rental company (because this happened while I was out of town at a conference). It all seems very complicated, especially because I used my company credit card to pay for the rental, which may mean the company is implicated? I'm just trying to take one thing at a time and not let my thoughts spiral into catastrophe.

[profile] siriaeve was in the car with me, and I thank my lucky stars that she was not hurt. Oof - it's hard to think that I put her in danger. But we are okay, and things will be okay, and [profile] siriaeve has been a trooper, and there are many distractions at my conference.

I would like for 2017 to QUIT now. Seriously. :(

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