I can't help you with seduction but I'm damn good at getting noticed. Not always by the right guy mind you...
1. Yes to the form fitting/flattering clothing. Slutty isn't necessarily what you should aim for but making an effort to look nice every time you're likely to meet him will not only help him notice you, but also help you feel more attractive and confident.
2. I already know from your journal that you're intelligent, funny, and interesting. That's why I'm stalking you in the first place:] Just don't be so enthralled with this guy that you're not going to be able to be yourself around him. Should you succeed in getting to know him he will have flaws. He'll still be a cute guy with a scottish accent, but also flawed :grin: Try to know him as a person and don't be so nervous that you aren't yourself. Yourself is wicked cool.
3. Everyone wants to be listened to and appreciated. If you can get him into conversation outside of Irish Literature really listen and give eye contact. Flirty eye contact as described above is v. good but just letting him know that you're interested is important. Sense of humor and common interests a plus. How many people do you have around you that care about what you have to say and laugh at your jokes? How important are they to you?
4. Important part. Make yourself known to him as a sexual being. No you don't have to strip naked and give him a lap dance:P Subtle is better. Just make a positive comment about his appearance. It can be either in a complimentary or a joking manner, but let him know that you could think about him in that way and it'll register that he can consider you in the same light. For example, if you're talking about your social lives and you mention your cute male friend who is in a band, grin, laugh a little, noticeably look him up and down, "I could see you doing that, but you'd have to let me (sing back-up, be your manager, play tambourine)"
5. Yes, spend time with him. Use your judgment as to how much. Flirt. Move slightly into his personal space, no need to hang all over him but the next time you're standing together notice how far away you stand and take another step forward. Sharing of personal items such as food, candy, and work supplies is also good. Friendly teasing between you is always a good sign of progress.
I won't set myself up as some kind of love guru. I'm awful at maintaining relationships but so far pretty frequently I've been noticed and asked out to the point where coworkers asked wtf I did. My aim however is far from perfect often landing in the vicinity of his best friend and the guy sitting on the *opposite* side of me in class :le sigh: But still all of the above are the things that occurred most frequently prior to a relationship. Hope it helps and that I didn't ramble into creepy territory but you said "seriously" so... ta da?
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Date: 2006-01-17 03:45 am (UTC)1. Yes to the form fitting/flattering clothing. Slutty isn't necessarily what you should aim for but making an effort to look nice every time you're likely to meet him will not only help him notice you, but also help you feel more attractive and confident.
2. I already know from your journal that you're intelligent, funny, and interesting. That's why I'm stalking you in the first place:] Just don't be so enthralled with this guy that you're not going to be able to be yourself around him. Should you succeed in getting to know him he will have flaws. He'll still be a cute guy with a scottish accent, but also flawed :grin: Try to know him as a person and don't be so nervous that you aren't yourself. Yourself is wicked cool.
3. Everyone wants to be listened to and appreciated. If you can get him into conversation outside of Irish Literature really listen and give eye contact. Flirty eye contact as described above is v. good but just letting him know that you're interested is important. Sense of humor and common interests a plus. How many people do you have around you that care about what you have to say and laugh at your jokes? How important are they to you?
4. Important part. Make yourself known to him as a sexual being. No you don't have to strip naked and give him a lap dance:P Subtle is better. Just make a positive comment about his appearance. It can be either in a complimentary or a joking manner, but let him know that you could think about him in that way and it'll register that he can consider you in the same light. For example, if you're talking about your social lives and you mention your cute male friend who is in a band, grin, laugh a little, noticeably look him up and down, "I could see you doing that, but you'd have to let me (sing back-up, be your manager, play tambourine)"
5. Yes, spend time with him. Use your judgment as to how much. Flirt. Move slightly into his personal space, no need to hang all over him but the next time you're standing together notice how far away you stand and take another step forward. Sharing of personal items such as food, candy, and work supplies is also good. Friendly teasing between you is always a good sign of progress.
I won't set myself up as some kind of love guru. I'm awful at maintaining relationships but so far pretty frequently I've been noticed and asked out to the point where coworkers asked wtf I did. My aim however is far from perfect often landing in the vicinity of his best friend and the guy sitting on the *opposite* side of me in class :le sigh: But still all of the above are the things that occurred most frequently prior to a relationship. Hope it helps and that I didn't ramble into creepy territory but you said "seriously" so... ta da?